Safety verified dating, no bots Real people. Checked by people.
Discretion means nothing if you can't trust who's on the other side. Every ALTER member is verified with a live selfie and reviewed by a person before anyone can see them, and the tools that keep conversations respectful are on from the first day.
- Live-selfie verified
- Human review
- No bots or paid profiles
- 18+ only
Four checks before anyone sees you.
On ALTER, verification isn't a badge you can skip. It's how you get in.
- Live selfie checkA quick liveness scan proves you're a real person holding the phone. The selfie is seen only by our reviewers and never shown on your profile.
- Professional verification, if you likeConfirm what you do with a work email or a document. It's optional and earns a badge.
- Human reviewA member of our team looks at every new profile before it goes live, usually within 48 hours.
- Verified badgeOnce approved, you appear to other verified members, and only to them.
No bots. No paid profiles.
Discreet dating has a history of fake profiles: accounts created to keep paying members talking. ALTER doesn't run bots, doesn't hire hosts to chat with members and doesn't create profiles of its own. Every profile belongs to a real person who passed the same checks you did, and only verified members can message anyone.
Respect is built in.
Women on ALTER receive requests, not unsolicited messages: nothing reaches them until they accept. Anti-Harassment filters and Screenshot Block are on before anyone sees a profile. Men can send one crush per person per day, which keeps the approach personal instead of relentless.
If someone breaks the rules, report them. Our team investigates reports and can suspend or remove accounts that break our terms. You can always reach us directly at safety@thealter.app.
18 and over. Always.
ALTER is strictly for adults. Your date of birth is checked when you sign up, and the live selfie confirms there's a real person behind every profile. If you believe someone under 18 is using ALTER, tell us at safety@thealter.app straight away.
Before you meet.
ALTER protects your identity online. Meeting in person is where your own judgement matters most, and a few habits go a long way.
- Talk firstChat on ALTER until you're comfortable. You never owe anyone a meeting.
- Meet somewhere publicChoose a busy café, bar or restaurant for a first meeting, and get there and back on your own.
- Keep details backYour home address, workplace and surname can wait until trust is earned.
- If you can, tell someoneLet a friend you trust know where you'll be and when you expect to leave.
- Never send moneyAnyone who asks for money or financial details is a red flag. Report them.
- Trust your instinctsIf something feels wrong, leave. You don't need a reason, and you can report the profile afterwards.
Questions, asked quietly.
Something else on your mind? Write to support@thealter.app. We keep it between us.
ALTER verifies every member with a live selfie check and a human review before their profile appears, doesn't run bots or paid profiles, and switches on harassment filters and screenshot blocking by default. As with any dating app, take sensible precautions when you meet someone in person.
The live selfie takes a moment. A person then reviews your profile, usually within 48 hours.
No. It's seen only by our reviewers and is used to confirm you're a real person.
Report the profile from the app, or email safety@thealter.app. Our team investigates reports and can suspend or remove accounts that break our terms.
ALTER doesn't create profiles, run bots or pay hosts to chat. Every profile belongs to a real person who passed a live selfie check and a human review. If you ever suspect one slipped through, report it and our team will look into it.
More about ALTER.
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