Dating for attached men 18+ Real women. A respectful pace.
ALTER is a discreet dating app for men who are married or in a relationship. Every woman you see has passed a live selfie check and a human review. There are no bots and no paid profiles, so the attention you get is real, and so is the person giving it.
- Every woman verified
- No bots or paid profiles
- Locks when you switch apps
- Messages vanish in 1h
Every woman here is real.
The oldest complaint about discreet dating sites is that the women aren't real. ALTER was built so that question doesn't come up. Before any profile appears, its owner passes a live selfie scan that proves a real person is holding the phone. Then a member of our team reviews the profile by hand, usually within 48 hours.
ALTER doesn't run bots, doesn't hire hosts to keep conversations going and doesn't fill the app with paid profiles. Only verified members can message anyone.
Verified alters nearby…
One crush a day. Make it count.
You can send one crush per person per day, with a short note if you like. It's a deliberate limit. Women on ALTER aren't buried under copy-pasted openers, which means a thoughtful one actually gets read.
She decides who gets through. Your approach arrives as a request, and a conversation opens when she accepts. It's slower than swiping, and that's the point: conversations here start because both people wanted them to.
Her photos on her terms. Yours on yours.
Every photo on ALTER starts blurred. Ask to see someone and she chooses whether to grant access, and for how long: an hour, a day, a week or a month. Private albums open the same way.
The same rules protect you. Your face stays blurred to everyone you haven't approved, and you appear under an alias. Your real name never shows.
Nothing in the app gives you away.
ALTER opens with your PIN or fingerprint and locks itself as soon as you switch apps. Conversations are end-to-end encrypted, screenshots are blocked, and messages vanish within the hour. Invisible Mode takes you out of search while you look around.
- PIN or fingerprintLocks the moment you switch to another app.
- Vanishing messagesEnd-to-end encrypted and gone within an hour.
- An alias, not your nameYour real name never appears on your profile.
- Approximate distanceOthers see roughly how far away you are, never where. You can hide it.
Two minutes to your alter.
Download ALTER from Google Play, choose an alias and a PIN, and take the live selfie. A person reviews your profile, and it goes live once it's approved. You'll appear only to other verified members.
Free to download. Plans for messaging are offered inside the app. An iPhone version is on the way.
Questions, asked quietly.
Something else on your mind? Write to support@thealter.app. We keep it between us.
Yes. Every profile passes a live selfie check and a human review before it appears. ALTER doesn't run bots, paid hosts or fake profiles.
Free to download. Plans for messaging are offered inside the app.
So requests stay worth reading. One crush per person per day, with an optional note, keeps the approach personal instead of a numbers game.
Not inside the app without you. ALTER opens only with your PIN or fingerprint, locks the moment you switch away, and messages vanish within an hour.
It's on the way. ALTER is available now on Google Play; join the iPhone waitlist and you'll hear first when it ships.
More about ALTER.
- For herRequests instead of an inbox, invisible browsing, and photos only on your terms.
- DiscretionAlias, blur, vanishing messages and the PIN lock: every privacy feature, explained.
- SafetyLive selfies, human review and no bots: how ALTER keeps members real and safe.
- Ashley Madison alternativeAn honest comparison with the best-known name in discreet dating.
- Gleeden alternativeWomen first, like Gleeden, with every member verified and every photo blurred.
Your alter is waiting.
Free to download. 18+ only.
iPhone
The iOS app is on its way. Leave an email and you'll hear first.